While there have been thousands of medical advances over the years, one that American society has led to discussion and proposals is to allow people to die. It seems that doctors are dedicated to saving lives, just as we expect them to, and perhaps because of this, is extended at a time when it is wise to let go. Many research and books now emphasizes skip parts including works by Atul Gawande and Courtney Martin. If death is the natural end of the living, why is it pilloried?
My sister died of early onset Alzheimer’s. The first symptoms, only recognized in hindsight, came when she was 53. Having always been a bit forgetful, taught lost keys and purses and forgotten appointments this rather than throw even thought to dementia. Even if we had lost our mother a few years ago Alzheimer’s before it was simply not possible for our sister examples familiar logo too. It had to be something else. Carole is the 7-year progress of which 60 she no longer knew my name or recognized before many familiar environment and then an additional 7-year decline in March to her death. Towards the end, when she would fall or moan or appear unwell, brother-in-law would rush her to the emergency room where attendants would state that there was no remedy available and send them home. Finally, a brave doctor told them they should look again, the only recourse was to access long-term care, feeding tubes and other equipment, and was their wish. Carole was never taken to the emergency return. She was allowed to stay at home where she could be alone with the hired care together with love, brother-in-law. Death was not good, but it was milder than staying alive.
Why are dying and death that plagues the minds of many? Although I do not savor the thought out of this world as I have many tasks to complete and responsibilities to fulfill, I realize also inevitability. I do not want to be a science experiment for some physician or medical toy (unless this would be useful to others in the future). I want to live in the present and live in a way that regrets not plug my mind. Be honest and good, helpful and determined, I think I can accomplish this and still have time left.
Gawande in his book Being Mortal discusses how the doctor offers longer life, the patient and family hear the months and years when the truth is days and weeks. Valiant fights start in the hope that death can be kept at bay. Consequently, tests and experiments and drugs and surgery are given all the well-meaning but futile they may be. And that the last days are spent on health care with tubes and beepers place at home. Martin shares a comfort care of Zen Hospice. Here residents are surrounded by and immersed in meaningful create the attendants focused on caring rather than curing diseases that have no cure. Zen emphasizes care present with mindfulness to the needs of the dying. Maybe it’s fragrant meal, or maybe there is silence. Tender pats and rubs arm and soothing music may be present. Or resident can be up and working, painting, singing, playing instruments, or pursue another passion. Desires are satisfied and reason prevails.